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Working with Townsend has tied together every “personal development” book, podcast, youtube video, course, and silent meditation retreat that I’ve consumed or experienced in the past 5+ years. I’ve been able to connect dots in every area of my life that have made everything more effortless and enjoyable. Everything is easier, every relationship is better, and my ability to create my life rather than report on it has been unlocked.


Ultimately there are no words, there is only the experience - I recognize it would be difficult to have a conversation even with my slightly younger self to tell him just how transformational it would be to work with Townsend. This journey is absolutely not for everybody, but if you have even an inkling that it might be for you... remember this is your life; it’s not a dress rehearsal.


~Trevor H.


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Working with Townsend is a life changing experience. In just a few sessions I experienced transformation in all areas of my life. Instead of waking up to a world of challenges, hard work, and problems; I wake up to a world filled with infinite possibilities and fun. In areas of my life where I was holding back, in doubt about what I wanted or should do next, I am now unstoppable and free from fear and doubt. Townsend guided me to me reconnect with my own infinite capacity to love and create. This work is the ultimate gift anyone can give themselves.


~Wouter D


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I do so much work that’s creative, but even though I’ve been doing it for 25 years, it can be hard to get out of my head and stop comparing it to what others do. Townsend taught me a structured process to get at the root of unhelpful self-judgments and replace them with thoughts that serve me. More than that, he helped me see that I don’t just create words and music—I create everything in my life, which means I can apply the same processes to anything I’d like to change.


~ Aaron D

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Many high performance people are suffering yet apprehensive about change, since that would mean upsetting a system that has worked well for their career, finances, etc. 


I came to Townsend a bit atypically. I was/am a high performing leader helping to scale a company, but I was also begging for a monumental change.


My life was consistently in the acute phase of emotional/spiritual/mental suffering. Despite a year of work dealing with trauma and mental health issues, I had only learned the tools to identify problems, and lacked the understanding how to move forward again out of a frozen state. 


Over the course of my work with Townsend, my eyes would get a little more clear each time we met, and I started to understand the elements that kept me in neutral, and more importantly, how to begin to move past them. I realized that it was my birthright to live a full life. 


One of of my biggest breakthroughs was realizing that changing the things I did and trying to change my habits would only be a temporary band aid. I’d invariably end up in the same place a month later with a broken habit to show for it. I needed to concentrate my efforts on how I created myself with thoughts and words.


My work with Townsend altered the course of my life. To quote one of my favorite books - “I don’t know where I’m going, but I know exactly how to get there.” The greatest gift he gave me (or better said, helped me to see) was the ability to create deeper relationships, speak openly with people I love, and have a vision for my own future. 


I am a better leader, son, husband and friend. And that’s just the beginning. “


~Alex G


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I was looking for a different perspective and more opportunity for my life. I have always been able to work hard to get the things I wanted in my life but was never truly satisfied or fully enjoyed what I was doing on a daily basis. During my first conversation with Townsend I knew almost immediately there was a diff way to view life and goals and shift the way you create how you see things to get everything you can imagine without working yourself to death.  


Our work together helped me see when I wasn’t being the person that lives the life I want to live and create a process for cleaning up those discrepancies.  


Since our work together I have created more in six months than in the last 6 years of my life.  It has transformed the way I see, speak, hear, and interact with the world.   I tell people all the time if I wasn’t living this, I wouldn’t believe it.  


I attribute being able to Build my own business and scale it to our work together.  10xing my income in just a few months.   Having a network of like minded men that can create even more together and not only being able to see all the doors in my mind that have even more potential but knowing that I now have the process to create the unique key that will unlock it and present more opportunity in my life.  


~Justin M


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I don’t know what specifically I was ‘looking’ for, but I do know I got so much more than I imagined. 


I was looking for something and nothing all at the same time. I wanted more accountability and guidance, but was also hesitant because I had done some group coaching programs in the past and didn’t get great results. So I came in without super high expectations as I didn’t really know what I was getting into. 


Overall though was looking for/hoping for inspiration, but I got a transformation instead. 


I was looking for accountability, but got a true support system instead. 


I was looking for coaching, but I got strategies and tactics that changed the way I thought, behaved and thought about the world and myself.


There are so many areas of life where this work helped me learn about and see circumstance differently. The way I thought about myself, the way I thought about the world. What bad mental habits were in place that had been there for long I didn’t even realize they were there. 


I think the biggest shift for me was around the language that I used about and to myself and how it was not supporting my true goals. Saying I wanted one thing, but then my language and habits in no way truly aligning with those goals.


In terms of where I have experienced transformation in my life is in how I identify my self. The way I speak to myself. How I set my goals and vision for myself. My results in my business ventures have improved. My relationships with my wife and daughters have improved. I feel like I have so much more clarity in so many areas. Playing the game of ‘how would this version of KD’ act. Playing bigger games and not settling or shying away from what could truly be. Integrity as well. Townsend did not pull punches when you needed to hear something he said it, and he helped reframe my ideas around integrity. Why would the universe honor my asks if I don’t honor my word?


It sounds corny, but opportunities have just been showing up at a rapid pace. My decision making on where to focus I am now able to do around my identity, ‘how would someone who believed this act’ which steers my choices in so many ways. Coming from a place of ‘being’ vs ‘doing’ and removing the phrase ‘I’m trying’ when receiving compliments. 


I truly believe that because of this work I will break my income goals next year, my lifestyle goals next year, all while having more enjoyable and passionate relationships with myself, wife, and daughters. 


I am. I am. I am.  I am the greatest at what I do and will never settle again. There is no worst case scenario. 


Thank you for all you have done. 


~Kevin D


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When I connected with Townsend, I wasn't necessarily looking for anything directly. I was curious about having the opportunity to be part of a group of like-minded individuals who could support my commitment to learning, self-improvement, and getting a little better every day.


I've also been investing heavily in myself lately. You could say I was in the mindset of self-improvement and reading every book I could. I'm someone who is always looking for that edge… always looking for ways to improve and push the limits of what I believe is possible. Ultimately, I'm looking to become the best version of myself.


The work we did together helped me learn about myself. It allowed me to uncover opportunities for growth I hadn't seen previously.


Prior to this work, I was producing results but almost always in a state of beating myself up. The voice in my head insisted I wasn't getting there fast enough or tried to convince me I could have done more to satisfy a client or I wasn’t there enough for my family.


Since working with Townsend, I have learned to identify and eliminate the negative thoughts and beliefs that drain my energy. More importantly, I have learned how to transform them into thoughts that energize me and how to create myself as the exact person I want to be right now.


This has been a game-changer.


The last three months alone, have been incredible.  I have experienced a massive increase in my ability to accomplish the business objectives I am going after. The potential I have in front of me now is almost difficult to get my head fully around.


For example, my business is profitable and thriving, I'm fielding a potential multimillion-dollar acquisition, and I'm continuing to uncover new opportunities that make this potential acquisition look like a bad idea.


It’s an astronomically different world that I'm living in now.


I have to say though that the most valuable part of the work is that for the first time in my life, I have the ability to live in and focus on the present and have a framework to get myself out of ruts with incredible speed.


I've unlocked my entire and unlimited potential to create my life however I choose. There are literally no limitations. If I want to make it happen, it's going to happen. This has been a complete and total game-changer for me.


~Ryan R


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I was looking for a performance coach, an accountability partner. Instead, I was introduced to a community of men who went on a journey to understand the narrative that we have created for our lives, l, and learn how to rewrite our narrative, and Live out the rewritten narrative.


All of this was facilitated by a leader and a coach that welcomed difficult questions and open dialogue so we could learn from one another. 


Our work helped me to take a hard look at the unuseful judgments I had of myself. The experience made me feel like a hoarder of thoughts/judgement that were bringing me down. I have often heard the advice, “speak to yourself the way you would talk to a best friend.” I learned quickly that I would have zero friends if I spoke to them the way I spoke to myself.  


During our work together, I have experienced transformation of my relationship with thoughts; my relationship with my wife, my family, and friends; how I wake up each day and create myself each morning; how I approach clients and prospects, and how I approach leading a group 


As a result of this work I moved to a new firm which I could not be more pleased with; I started an instagram community of individuals that create themselves every day; I recorded a video that I listen to each day that allows me to create myself every morning and throughout the day.


The most valuable aspect of our work together has been having a repeatable process that has not ended since our last meeting.


This wasn't a motivational speech, it unlocked of a permanent mindset shift. Most coaching is like a massage. This was more like brain surgery!


~Andrew M


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When we first connected, I was looking for an opportunity to "level-up".  Having done some personal work in the past, I was very aware of the positive impact.  Life was great, and I figured it wouldn't hurt to jump into something like this again, even though I often thought I had it all figured out (which played into a common theme of me viewing myself as better than everyone).


The work I did with Townsend uncovered that common theme (among several others), and I would have never uncovered that on my own. I also didn't realize how many areas of my life that judgement had a negative impact.


Since working with Townsend, I have a process I can trigger at any moment that brings me something other than happiness and joy, and as a result, my quality of life is consistently higher. I'm starting to notice that each one of these moments is gradually transforming my being.


The most valuable aspect of the work we did was correcting my viewpoint that at some point I'd be "done" with working on myself.  I've now accepted that I'm playing an infinite game, and that the work is never done.


~Josh E


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I was very aware of the fact that I had identified some issues in my life, but hadn’t worked towards solving any of them, when Townsend and I first connected. I felt stuck in a rut- aware of these personal problems, issues, desires, but I had not found a way to work towards or over those things. When Townsend called offering this class, I knew it was my opportunity to commit myself to do something about it.


Our work together helped me understand the power of my mind. It helped me realize that I create my experience- consciously or unconsciously. Feelings about myself or others, happenings in my life, my emotions, all of it, I was creating without consciously doing so. The insight was then, that I could control all of the above with conscious, calculated creation. 


I have almost completely shed fear of flying by creating myself as someone who has no fear on airplanes. Someone who is confident enough to hop on a plane anywhere and feel no fear or anxiety. I also have remade some personal figures in my life in a way that has helped me feel more positively towards them, bettering our interactions and helping me understand or empathize with them. I have also experiences transformation in how I feel about myself. I am more forgiving and kind to myself, creating a better me everyday. 


The outcomes and results that I attribute to those transformations are a better me, simply put. More calm, rational, less affected by emotional shifts. Able to better control my thoughts about myself or other people, and to catch myself falling into a pit of self disparagement. The most valuable aspect of our work together was absolutely becoming aware that what you create unconsciously shapes so much of your life, and to bring consciousness to that creation can change everything.


~Brian R


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When I first connected with Townsend, I was living life in a malaise. There were no real problems, no big complaints, but very limited genuine feelings of joy. Overall, I was anxious about the future and bored with the present.


Through Townsend’s guidance and the exercises, I started to see things, by things and mean my thoughts.

Not only did I start to be conscious of my thoughts, I began to understand that my thoughts/ judgements created my experiences.

And then I learnt and continuously practice tools to dissolve my un-useful thoughts.


Like a muscle, I’m working every day at recognizing my un-useful thoughts, replacing them and re-creating myself.


Knowing that I’m exactly where I should be in my life is comforting and that my mind/beliefs will manifest my future is an exciting concept.


It’s a journey and I’m happy to have Townsend in my life to help me steer.


~Marc B


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Initially, I approached Townsend looking to build out a sales pipeline and create a repeatable sales training process. I thought that this was the main thing that was missing from my life. It felt like if I were able to solve this one thing then everything else would be okay. 


The biggest eye-opening experience was realizing that there was so much more to the opportunity in front of me and the sales pipeline and repeatable training processes are actually a byproduct of improving my being, improving my relationship with myself. I’ve been focusing on self-improvement for over 20 years and while this concept was not new to me the process and experience of what Townsend has built helped me see things in a different way. It’s hard to explain. 


As a result of working together with Townsend I became more aware of my intolerance and impatience, something that I used to believe was a shortcoming of others, when in reality it was a reflection of something that I had the opportunity to improve with myself. 


By working together through the process with Townsend and doing the hard work along the way I was able to transform and improve my relationship with myself, my family, my team, my clients, and the world. I am patience. I am tolerance. And while those last two lines seem like incomplete statements, if you decide to take part in the program you will realize they are in fact - complete.


~ Dmitriy P


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The Creating Your Extraordinary Life Experience was life changing. Granted I was going through a rough time in my life so coaching by Townsend was incredible, I still use the tools taught in the program on a daily basis even when I’m flying high and I’m in the best of the best of times! I realize now that even during those times of being in an amazing mental state, I STILL have unuseful judgements about myself. The negative thoughts I have about myself have decreased substantially. And when they come up, I simply smile, and move into a better state! Now I can quickly recognize how I’m feeling and move smoothly through those emotions into a more peaceful state of mind! 


~ Jourdan D


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When I first connected with Townsend, I was doing great in some aspects of my life and doing ok in others. I was starting to excel personally and professionally. At the same time, I feel I was starting to lose track of efforts and relationships that needed the same attention. There was a definitely a lack of full fulfillment. 

 

The work together opened my eyes to the where I needed to focus outside of my professional life. I needed to work on being more present and less negative in aspects of my life and really being in the right headspace/thought process overall. I learned that I was not aware of my negative thinking and lack of efforts in relationships and spiritual connection. 


Our work together reinforced a sense of confidence and control that I had so much of when I was younger. I feel re-engaged and re-empowered to be the best version of myself possible. 


Overall, it has re-instilled confidence that I can do anything and that I have the power to create my life as extraordinary.


What has been most valuable is the sense of grounding from our work together. It has switched my mindset to address where I am slacking and focus on doing the work in all aspects of my life. When you put in the work extraordinary things happen and I am a testament of that. 


~ David D


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Gratitude and service have been pillars of Who I Am.  However, the person I was being was not committed to those principles. I was a person who’s self awareness was judged on my past and my behavior was a reaction to what was happening. Working with Townsend, I found out how to create who I want be and, most importantly, be that person. 


It was not a “switch" that I experienced with our work together, I became who I am now because I created who I am.  It takes time, effort, self evaluation, lots self empathy, new perspectives, it has became a beautiful journey that I love and am excited to continue.  


Who I was yesterday is part of me but Who I am going to be today is how I create myself to be.  I am proud to know how I will behave, I am excited to learn from my mistakes, I am blessed to be committed to be a growing creator!  Thank you Townsend for showing me this trail!


~ Sam H


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The extraordinary life group was excellent.  I had the privilege of joining one of the first groups and I can say it has helped me a lot.


Overall, it allowed me more bold.


I initially reached out to Townsend looking for more depth and direction in life and what I was “chasing.”


The experienced helped me learn more about me and identify the things I want more of. I learned tools to help get back on track and pick myself up when things didn’t work. We all have times where things didn’t work and we beat ourselves up.


It taught me to start somewhere, define what you really want in your own context, with definition. I am looking at the things I want and have with a clearer picture.  Not letting things outside of my control bother me. Being honest about what I want and need!


In terms of impact, my relationship with my wonderful wife is even better than before. I also sought out and created a new job with a company that respects me, the work I produce, and my personal time.


~ Garrett F


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I was looking for increased confidence in “Creation” and my ability to do it. I was in a high stress sales employment position, essentially a commercial real estate development deal creation role, so the big leagues in my mind. I was also struggling with a few hard life decisions. I needed a swift kick in the ass, several personal growth goals were on the cusp of either epic achievement or slipping away pathetically.


One of the most powerful insights I had was 1/5/10-year goals that previously seemed unobtainable (or even ridiculous) are 100% achievable and often in less time than originally expected. Creation starts in my head and then it appears in the real world through direct action, not luck. I create, I do, I achieve, I win!!!


First and foremost, this experience has transformed my relationship with my family. I see how I can choose my BEing and choose how I feel about others actions or words. I don’t let others choose that for me by their actions, aka I fight with my wife and kids less.


Second, this experience has changed my relationship with my work. I committed to BEing what I am worth. I quit a job and rocketed into a significantly more challenging but also better paying leadership position.


Finally, this experience has transformed my relationship with money. I no longer see money as something to chase. In fact… money chases ME now.


As a result of applying what I learned, I moved from Chicago to Denver to buy my childhood home. I had the confidence to leave a comfortable 10 year job, and now I kill it at a new bad ass CO local job doing deals 10x bigger. The most valuable aspect of our work together is I know I have the tools to maintain my Extraordinary Life, I created it and I live it every day.


~ Sean F



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When Townsend reached out to me, I was on the front side of what seemed to be a significant life transition. I felt far from at-ease with what I was doing professionally, how I was showing up personally, and where I was headed. I’d achieved a lot of success, and I guess you could say I was wondering what comes next. Or feeling empty with what hadn’t come yet. I wanted to be more present in my work and life. I wanted to be a better father. I wanted to be a great husband. 


Our work brought me an understanding of who I was being in the world that created the anxiety, stress, and unease that surrounded so much of what I’d built in the world. Through real-world practice and experiencing over the duration of the program, I became more aware of who I was being in each moment and how this impacted the lenses and experiences I was having in real time–and was given space to reimagine who I could be. 


The 12 weeks turned out to be my own inner heroes journey adventure. I delved into my headtrash, unhelpful thoughts, and endless negative self judgements. I questioned who could be creating this madness and then was given an opportunity to recreate myself from a place of forgiveness, self love, and creative expression. 


Since graduating the experience, I have found myself a more steady human being, I’ve adopted new habits that are beginning to add tremendous value to my daily life, and now have a framework that I can continue to practice and improve upon. I find more moments to give myself grace and reimagine situations in ways previously hidden, finding better solutions to problems that seemed to be hiding in plain sight. I’m showing up as a better father, husband, and leader. 


The most valuable thing about the experience had nothing to do with Townsend whatsoever, but was the experiences I uncovered by following the process. Townsend merely a guide and facilitator to the magic of self creation. 


I highly recommend working with Townsend for any man is looking to discover more out of their life and isn’t exactly sure what the next step is—or one who finds themselves great in a couple areas of their life, but lacking in others.


~ Brent W


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I honestly wasn’t sure what I was looking for in this program at the beginning, but Townsend is pretty good at knowing when someone needs help or could do better.  I was feeling a little “stuck” and knew there were important conversations I wasn’t having.  How do you say no when someone you respect asks if you want to create your extraordinary life?


First, I learned that I am not alone.  Everybody in our group was experiencing similar challenges in life to varying degrees.  If I had to summarize what I learned about myself, it would be that I was masking my being with a lot of doing.  I learned to breathe and think about the thoughts I was having as a neutral 3rd party. 


Transformation is a strong word, but this process has transformed how I think about everything.  I view almost every thought and certainly every action through the lens of my declaration to ensure I am acting with integrity.


The most concrete outcomes of this process were removal of judgement and clarity of thought.  The most valuable outcomes of these new skills were realized in my relationship with my wife and my career.  The removal of judgement enabled me to see the woman I’ve loved for 25 years and remove the noise while the clarity of thought led me to decline a very lucrative opportunity in lieu of one that was more clearly aligned with my being and my “why.”


~ Tom M 


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Gratitude and service have been pillars of Who I Am.  However, the person I was being was not committed to those principles. I was a person who’s self awareness was judged on my past and my behavior was a reaction to what was happening. Working with Townsend, I found out how to create who I want be and, most importantly, be that person. 


It was not a “switch" that I experienced with our work together, I became who I am now because I created who I am.  It takes time, effort, self evaluation, lots self empathy, new perspectives, it has became a beautiful journey that I love and am excited to continue.  


Who I was yesterday is part of me but Who I am going to be today is how I create myself to be.  I am proud to know how I will behave, I am excited to learn from my mistakes, I am blessed to be committed to be a growing creator!  Thank you Townsend for showing me this trail!


~ Sam H


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When I first connected with Townsend, I was looking for internal peace and a sense of calm.


Our work together help me learn about myself.  I learned there is nothing wrong with me, I’m not broken. The insight I walk away with is the control I have over my environment by creating my days, my weeks, my goals differently. Coming from a place of abundance and unlimited opportunity instead of being in a place of scarcity and fear.


At work I have had my most successful year of my career. I have also been apart of creating that abundance for my team as well. Unprecedented growth. In my personal relationship with my wife  I feel like a newlywed again. After twenty years I feel more connected and more open than at any other time in twenty years of marriage. With my daughter I have been able to be more relatable to her. It has allowed me to be a 10 year old kid again  myself and experience the benefits of being present and engaged and really live in the moment. Within myself I feel like I have more energy and that nothing is too big for me. I can do some amazing shit.


Through this experience and over this past year, I have created life changing economic success that I attribute to this work. Even more significantly, I am a better husband and father (and my high blood pressure is gone).


~ Josh L


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When I first got connected to Townsend, it was through a very good friend of mine who had gone through the CYEL workshop. I had been venting about to challenges of early parenthood, the stress I was experiencing in my marriage (largely due to me), and grappling with why I wasn’t happy despite my professional success, beautiful family, loving wife and the comfort and adventure we have in our lives. 


Our work together helped me form a new road map and tool kit for personal growth. It provided the foundation on which to realign with my values and chart a path forward. A way to constantly challenge the degree to which I create my own negative thinking and the degree to which I was justifying my own “stuckness.”


As part of this work, I created a daily ritual, a practice, of consciously and intentionally creating myself, challenging my limiting beliefs and changing my thinking over time. I see progress in myself all the time and also have accepted that this journey of self-love and self-growth is eternal, and that’s a good thing. 


The most valuable take away from our time together has been a renewed awareness and confidence in the power I have over my thinking and thus my circumstances and a drive to constantly create my best self.


~ Andrew M


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When I first met Townsend I was stagnate in my life, I was missing a lot. Direction, purpose, connection. He helped me through his process to define all of these areas for myself.


The work with Townsend helped me learn that I lived my life with expectations not agreements and I let judgements of others and of myself affect me in a negative way.


I experience transformation in every aspect of my life, how I treat my family, relationships, work, and most importantly myself.


At the end of the day Townsend gave me a magic tool. One that I had been with me all along but I never knew how to “swing the hammer.” There isn’t a day that has gone by where I don’t use this tool to better myself and those around me. For that I am infinitely grateful to have been able to work with him


~Reid V


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